But have you ever asked yourself a question... how come there are so many single people and still its hard to find a partner?!
Shouldn't this be easy because they are... many single people?!...
My opinion, I think it is about time for people to have a wake up call. I believe we can make it happen if....we stop being picky or shy! If we humble ourselves a bit. If we stop looking for Mr. Right! We can't have it all.
Marriage is the most beautiful thing, I tell you what! Imagine having a partner who you share the same naniliii. lol...
Anyway, let's talk about this thing jamani. Tusaidiane, tueleweshane! Tell me what do you think about it! And what's your opinion... I'll be happy to help the way I know.
Because we all deserve to be happy!
18 maoni / comments:
coz most men dont want commitments sikuhizi wanasema maisha magumu i cant have a women depending on me for everything, ila ni ujinga maana mimi kama mimi siwezi olewa nikaa tu home nasubiri uniletee. people prefer to be single maana unakuwa huru
The reason why I am still single is because I too pick hell no I need help on this one. Either way I am mature enough to know that is not easy to get full package, and saddest thing is can't help it, I am disparately need help on this one, been married twice, dating hottest guys in town now I need to settle hope 2012 the light will shine on me. your fan from Scandinavia.
being single is the worst thing ever.....everyone need a partner in life...someone to love and who loves you too...someone to lean on...someone to share your joys and sorrows...just someone to be there for you.....LOVE IS SUCH A BEAUTIFUL THING....i havent find mine either but i am hoping for the best...Thank you Jesus
Tedy this is very true am going to 34 years now guess what yaani ni kama nipo Baharini sioni naelekea wapi every Guy you met has a lot of complications, they are not serious, they dont want commitment very bad mpaka huwa nawaza nizae tu sasa na Mume wa mtu umri ndio huooooo but I feel very bad as well , at least wanaoonyesha kidogo wana muelekeo I dont feel to love them at all naogopa kupretend I do love while m not, I feel so lonely basi tu..
well sayd mama malaika but siku hizi mapenzi ya kweli hayapo,ukimpata aliyetulia ushukuru na usali sana asikate kamba,pia tamaa wanaume wanataka wanawake wenye pesa siku hizi hali kadhalika na sisi wanawake tunataka wenye nazo,na utandawazi umechangia wote tuna elimu sawa sasa hakuna anayetaka kubanwa wanaume na wanawake wote wanataka uhuru,hamna kunyenyekeana so mtu anaamuwa kuwa sngle ili awe free,lakini mwisho wa siku everybody need somebody usingle si mzuri unapunguza heshima tofauti na kuwa mr na mrs,,,,,sweetflora
Mme au mke mwema anatoka kwa Mungu, na muda mzuri ni ule Mungu aliyekupangia kupata wako hivyo tuwaombee wanaotafuta wapate ili nao wafurahie maisha ya ndoa.Kwenye biblia imeandikwa mtu ataumacha Baba na Mama yake na ataungana na mwenza wake na watakuwa kitu kimoja. Ubarikiwe.
I completely disagree with you. It is such a horrible advice you are giving that people (women) should stop looking for Mr. Right and just settle whoever comes along.
I honestly believe that, love is a beautiful thing. But it can only be a beautiful thing if it's between people who truly can commit to one another in trust.
We all have different 'traits' that we look for in significant others. And love usually works when such traits are compatible. When one simply decides to give up on what interests them and what they are looking for in their significant other, "love" does not work.
Thus, take your time ladies. Being single is not a horrible bad thing, our society has molded us to think so, but solitude is and can be a good thing if you have not found the one you are looking for. Take your time and when you settle make sure, you are not settling simply because you have to settle down.
Love is God and God is love.
And how old are you again?... There is no culture pushing here my dear! Women have age limitEd to have babies, how long you want people to wait?...speaking "Mr. Right".... You can't sit there and wait for Mr. Right dear. First we have to know kuwa no one is perfect!
Girls you go get your man and for your care and condition love, that's where you can make him be mr. Right! Open your door and God will give you the best Man you desire!
Mdau nakuelewa hapo juu kuhusu settling but I don't think that TK is advocating for people to just settle for whoever comes. I think from what I understood and correct me if I am wrong is that the blogger is advising women to open up and not be in this boxed mentality about how you want your man to look like or to fulfill a list of qualities that we ourselves don't necessarily have. I think some people are single because Mr. Right has too many unnecessary connotations attached to him...like he should be this and have this and that... Kwa mfano, myself at one point I only wanted a man with a masters or phd but I missed out on good men who might have had just one degree. I think we should be more realistic and yes as women our clock is ticking unless you want to get married during menopause then you have a lot of time!
I think TK is trying to open up our eyes and its true that no one is perfect and relationship are ongoing work and cant be perfect because none of us ( two people in a relation arent perfect)....and when it comes to mr right, some ladies have a massive list of qualities and somehow unreal.Lets be open minded people...
One thing I've noticed about a few Tanzanian women especially living abroad and especially the ones who are in interracial relationships or marriages (mind you, I'm in one)..anyway, these women some have their own blogs and some don't....they have a tendency to post great pictures and say great things about their partners and relationship. (Which, I think it's wonderful...kuddos for y'all.) My only concern is that...when you see a post like this...."Why is It Becoming so Hard to Find a partner?"..makes me wonder....we (married women) tell single people to lower their standards etc....but how come we (married women) aren't REAL about our marriages especially our struggles etc. Most of our posts are all about (Marriage is great, my husband or boyfriend is wonderful...etc). I think the MORE REAL we get about our lives and our issues...the more effective it will be when we tell other women how to lower their standards when looking for a partner. Let's stop painting a picture perfect about our lives and let's tell people the truth about LOVE & MARRIAGE!! (I DON'T CARE WHO YOU MARRY...IT'S NEVER GONNA BE PERFECT....THROUGH CHRIST WE LEARN TO LOVE THE IMPERFECT PERSON PERFECTLY!
I totally agree with the comment made on December 16, 2011 3:10 PM
Being single can be great...or not so great depending on how you look at it.
The best thing any single lady can do is wait (wait upon the Lord)....don't try and make it happen!!!!
Enjoy being you....learn to love yourself first.
Embrace yourself...the bible says...there's a season for everything....so, enjoy the season that you're in....cause you won't get it back.
You know what..there are people who were meant to be single...have you ever thought that?
Bless y'all :-)
Responding to Tk's comment:
I am 23, born and raised in Tz but studying in CA. I come from a family of love and affection. My parents have been my role models since I learned that opposite attracts.
You might say I am too young to understand how "love works", I know that love works when it is looked at rationally with an occasional splash of irrationality.
Therefore, as a counter argument, I understand that women have a limited number or ovaries and that if you want to have babies you have to be mindful of your age. What you forget to mention here, is that you also have to be mindful of who is raising those children with you. It seems that your comment is pushing for women to think about settling for the sake of procreating. I think you cannot simply procreate because you can. You have to think about who is going to be your children's father/second parental unit. I doubt that any woman wants an absentee father for their children.
Hence, when scanning those men for a potential Mr. Right, I agree you do have to be realistic. However, realistic does not mean lowering your standards. A lot of relationships fail because once you start settling down and raising your family, your "Mr. Right's" shortcomings will start to show. This is when women realize, "Oh, I married the wrong man". Some choose to stay with the man and some decide to leave, either way, you remain unhappy in such a relationship.
Indeed no one is perfect, but the one you will be spending your forever with, has to be almost perfect as this is when one learns to compromise.
Love is simply a formula that consists of passion, intimacy and commitment. When those things waver due to a certain trait of your significant other that is a permanent fixture, you have an impending doom.
Therefore, to reiterate, TAKE YOUR TIME when it comes to choosing who you are going to sleep next to and wake up next to for the rest of the time you have in this not so perfect world. In the mean time, take the time your single to get to know who you are and what's your purpose in life. Knowing who you are first will inadvertently lead you into choosing your Mr. Right.
Love is God and God is Love.
i hate being single but i end up being single everytime, so i have decided to stay out of the game for a while before dating, cause i am 26 and i want a husband and a family of our own, but i just cant find the right man. i know God will answer my prayer in 2012.
its a thing which torments me!i dont know why i dont get married I m good girl I know that,I pray etc...but every mam i encounter/have a relationship with never want to settle down just want to play with u basi...
its killing me men are not serious &want to play with us(most of them)
ANNON December 16, 2011 2:03 AM, you have the same issue as me "are we twins?",
its terrible i tell you me pia those who come to me i dont really love them and why should i pretend?im scared to pretend too na natamani mtoto kupita maelezo
i totally agree with anon wa 12:21 na 12:47 Dec 18 na anon wa Dec 16, 3:10.
TK yaani i know u mean well my dear, but u re forgetting one thing, yes as women tuna limit na miaka yetu, but najua wajua hili kua mungu ashindwi kwa lolote lile.(wakumbuka stori ya Sarah na Abraham,if u have faith in God ,He will do wonders dear)
mimi naamini pia ndoa iwe na amani na upendo, si ndoa tu kwa sababu utaki kukaa single dear.
so wapendwa kua na positive attitude, kua na hope na tumwachie mungu, when the right time comes, you will get married.
be blessed.
My opinion s
1.Be thankful,for God's blessings upon you whether you are single or married because everything happen for a reason and it happen for you and not To you.
2.Pray to God to help you be strong if you were meant to be single in any way(i seen friends who are single and still having a blast and very grateful) and if has someone prepared for you let him choose him/patner for you (by praying) avoid visioning or forcing things to be way you want it because many times in the end it can become painful if you forced it or try to do it with your own ability
3. you cant tell and trust God to bring him sooner than you except him for marriage
4.usichague mwene pesa eti sababu will provide -know that he is not the provider but God is,and so God will provide for both of you abundantly if you trust on his provision,(you must trust that God is the provider and not your partner)
4.it will come dont worry,when you worry you are also giving the enemy a chance to frustrate and make you say negative things which is 'maneno yanaumba' utakachosema negative anakibeba anafanyia kazi so dont worry it will just come and stay positive without any doubt, God is good and he will make a way for your happiness no matter the circumstances around ..
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